7.8.8 Meeting with the affected student


15 min


Participants receive a detailed overview how to approach a bullied student including a possible interview guide.


Flipcharts No. 9, 10, 11, 12 – fastened on a pin board next to each other

Instruction for implementation:

The facilitators explain that the group is now at the point to actually start with the training of the 3 steps of the concept. The first step is to meet with the affected student. Depending on the situation the teacher will call the student at home (if he/she is not going to school anymore) or contact him/her in school. The meeting will be arranged in a separate room where nobody will disturb them.

The teacher greets the student warmly: “How nice to see you. Don´t worry I´m not talking about the lessons that you missed during the last days…” He/she will share his/her observations:

“I have noticed that…”
“I don´t see you anymore…”
“Your parents are worried…”

In the next phase, the teacher asks how the student feels at school. It is not necessary to go into details of the bullying incidents but rather to get a general idea.

The teacher will question the student concerning his/her will to change the situation, will convey confidence and express his/her commitment to help.

Flipchart No. 11

The teacher explains the next steps, emphasizes that he/she wants to relieve the burden and conveys safety.

Flipchart No. 12

Next, the teacher will inquire the names of friends or companions of the affected student but also the names of the bullying protagonists. Afterward, he/she assures confidentiality and finds out what should not be mentioned. Finally, the student is asked for his/her approval to proceed and a date for a follow- up meeting is agreed on.At the end of the presentation of the guideline for the talk, the facilitators will underline that it is of utmost importance to create an atmosphere of trust and confidence during the whole conversation.